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February 19, 2007

Sex and reproduction

Jill has an amazing post about Contraskeptic a self-identified Christian trapped in a sexless marriage because his wife refuses to risk getting pregnant from unprotected sex:

The author of the blog Contraception and Christianity, who goes by the handle Contraskeptic, kindly emailed me a link to his blog, where I came across this post. It’s interesting. In his blog description, he says that his blog is intended for discussion about contraception in the context of Christian marriage, and that he’s trying to sort through his own views on contraception, as an Evangelical Christian. He supports birth control, but is sympathetic to the arguments against it. Shaping his perspective is his wife, who did not want to become pregnant after her second child, but did anyway, despite non-medical efforts at prevention. Before her third pregnancy, she was suffering from postpartum depression. She wanted to go back to work. She thought that having another child would be a “disaster.” She asked her husband to get a vasectomy, and he wouldn’t. She would only have sex with him once a month, the day after her period ended. She slept on the couch so that she wouldn’t be tempted into sex. And when she found out she was pregnant again, she sobbed, and was “devastated.”

After the birth of their third child, her husband went in to get a vasectomy, and was refused. Getting it at his wife’s request, his doctor said, was the wrong reason. It’s been 15 months since this couple has so much as cuddled, let alone had sex. They both want to — but the wife is so terrified of another pregnancy, another difficult delivery, another C-section, another long recovery — that it’s not worth it. [Read the whole thing]

Surprise, surprise: John McCain says Roe v Wade should be overturned.


"I do not support Roe versus Wade. It should be overturned," the Arizona senator told about 800 people in South Carolina, one of the early voting states.

McCain also vowed that if elected, he would appoint judges who "strictly interpret the Constitution of the United States and do not legislate from the bench." [AP]

What a maverick.

On a lighter note, The Daily Intelligencer proffers a history of word "scrotum" in the New York Times.



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I'm sorry, but I am pretty sure there are ways to say "I need a vasectomy because my wife will not have sex with me otherwise" in such a way as to make a doctor comfortable with your level of consent. Like, maybe, "my wife and I have decided that a vasectomy is the method of birth control that is most consistent with our desires and beliefs, so let's do this thing." And, maybe, don't cry while you say it and secretly write a note on the doc's Rx pad saying "for the love of God don't cut on me, my wife is crazy and making me do this."

What a crock of shit. I grew up Southern Baptist, and I know a lot of good people who have archly conservative religious views. But my patience for this kind of ignorance in the name of almighty God has really worn thin.

Christian contraception. – Making Richard Dawkins’ idea of religions as replicating, Darwinian memes sound more plausible all the time.

McCain vs. Roe vs. Wade – Senator, you’re becoming altogether too predictable.

Scrotum – Borat to admirer of Barbara Bush: In-a Kazakhstan we think “Bar-bar-a-Boosh” very funny. Because in-a Kazakh, “bar-bar-a” mean-a “to eat”, and-a “boosh” mean-a “testicle sac”.

John McCain is a sellout! Plain and simple. He has begun the pandering to the looney right wing religious extremists in order to appear more "Republican" than Guliani. As a former fan of McCain, this sickens me.

Roe is a horribly written opinion, similar to Brown v. Board of Education, and should be revisited, but only to solify its meaning. Not to overturn it.

As for this Chrsitian family story, I am not at all shocked by this. I have disagreements with my priest on a monthly basis on the issue of contraception. (I am a Catholic.) Am I not allowed to enjoy a heathly sex life with my wife? We choose not to have children at this point in our lives. Are we to not have sex? This could possibly ruin our marriage, resulting in divorce, which the church also hates.

So when I propose these scenarios to my priest, I get ridiculous answers and in the end it is always the contraception, no divorce. Well as I tell him at confession every month, I choose what I feel is the lesser sin and avoid divorce! He always admonishes me and gives me a bit bigger pennance, but hell, at least I am still having sex with my wife! Gotta love the Catholics! Confession is awesome!

"I do not support Roe versus Wade. It should be overturned," the Arizona senator told about 800 people in South Carolina, one of the early voting states.

McCain also vowed that if elected, he would appoint judges who "strictly interpret the Constitution of the United States and do not legislate from the bench." [AP]

I agree with McCain; the Berger court had no authority to impose abortion by judicial fiat.

Personally, I am willing to accept abortion as a necessary evil in the first several weeks of pregnancy, but, even so, I think abortion laws are the purview of state governments.

Robert O'Brien: I agree completely that abortion laws are for the purview of the states. But the reality is that the lobbyists will never let it out of the courts. And many states would move to ban it given the opportunity. But I have always put forth that the Commerce Clause could be used to keep them legal. It worked to eradicate segregation, why not to keep abortion legal?

Baloney. Maybe I've lived in NY to long, but, really...this guy can't find another doctor in Mayberry who'll give him the vasectomy? C'mon. We're not the Philippines just yet. Mr. Religioso is prevaricatin'. He just doesn't want to get one.

I continue to be amazed at how far we've come (backwards) in the last 30 years. I grew up in a Southern Baptist household. There was absolutely no prohibition on contraception within the context of marriage. But that was before political ideologues took over the denomination.

Just one more reason I am proud to call myself an atheist today!

Well, maybe this will help them.

Not that I think Mr. Contraskeptic is anything but a WATB who wants to keep his wife eternally pregnant.

He's just whining to his confessors about something that is devastating to his wife. In Medieval times right up to oh say, the 19th Century, the way married men coped with the fact that it would kill their wives, or ruin their health, to get the wife pregnant again, once she had produced the requisite heirs, was to not have sex with her anymore and have mistresses. That approach is frowned on now, hence Contraskeptic's dilemma.

If he loved his wife, he would use really good birth control, or get a vasectomy..........the fact that he's even whining about this shows that he's a narcissistic bullshit artist, like so many righties.

A great many men, in the Middle Ages, who loved their wives, took the leave 'em alone/take mistresses or not/ approach. While it's not the best solution, at least those guys who did it obviously loved their wives and didn't want to lose them.

This guy's just a whiner.


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